…giving away the care of your proverbial inner-child to others, looking for love and approval from them, instead of from YOU…
NEVER works… it’s NEVER EVER enough, like with drugs…this must be what narcissists do… always using everyone for narcissistic supply… you never can get enough, because NOTHING can take the place of self-love, EVER.

killing yourself is an answer.

so is deciding that you like yourself (and actually doing so,) and saying that if others don’t, then it’s their loss.

I’ll go with the second option.