at a distance, things painful are less so.

so HERE’s a question…

in relationships, not just with partners, but other kinds too,

if they DON’T (as they shouldn’t, it seems,) consist in “giving away the care of your proverbial inner-child” to someone else who is not qualified, disinterested, which means that they’ll treat you like shit, and you’ll take how they treat you as proof of whatever negative self-hating beliefs you hold about yourself (thanks, ‘shitty childhood’),

as I say,,, if they DON’T consist in that, in trying to secure the love and approval (empty, of course) of people who’s love you don’t need (instead of your OWN love, that is,)

if they and their dynamics DON’T consist in this, then…

what DO they consist in?