not getting around to things you really want…

if there are
1. some things I do that basically OTHER PEOPLE arrange, and I merely have to GO to…
2. and other things which would happen if “I” succeeded in arranging and organizing them…
then why is it that so often, the latter are things I never GET to until um, years later than I need to…

I really need some kinda manager or

I really need some kinda manager or agent or life coach or somethin…
just the RIGHT KIND, not someone whom I feel judged by, not someone who is communicating in a way that I don’t understand, that overwhelms me, that triggers me, someone who is encouraging in a way that just WORKS with me.

“Nothing anyone does or says can hurt me”

Thought of the Day, 7 23 2015
Nothing anyone does or says can hurt me, even if they are people who are/were really close to me who’s approval and love I really needed or wanted.
trying to tell ourselves this, yes.
after all…
I’m Me, not them, and in the end, what they do or say has nothing do with my rights to happiness and such, my worth.

happy yourself, not because of others

people are not there for you to use to make yourself feel better, though they can indeed sometimes do that.
at a certain point, you must face yourself, and realize (or learn) that you are a good person who deserves happiness JUST BECAUSE, regardless of how others treat you, of whether they “see” your goodness, your humanity.
that could be pretty hard for a frightened young child, ill-equiped to understand existence, to understand.

do something yourself

yeah…. ‘steada depending on others to provide YOUR opportunities for stimulation (and money,) not to mention livelihood, that is, adhd-high-stimulation,
do it your fuckin self.
why have I so often just opted to find something that’s awesome enough, and just BE part of it, rather than MAKING one myself….
given, I haven’t done this when there IS no “thing” in a given area, I HAVE gone and made my own in said cases.
perhaps I should ALWAYS do this.

self-helping inDEed