….you shouldn’t just break your back PUSHING into new situations which you may find TERRIFYING and CONFUSING and UPSETTING and OVERWHELMING…. why torture yourself?

surely it’s better to mix in some things that FEEL GOOD and COMFORTABLE and FAMILIAR too. you don’t have to be perfect, or a MARYTR to SELF-SACRIFICE, in spite of any youthful (probably male) feelings of insecurity and need for approval from someone.