making things about yourself, taking them personally.
one doesn’t need to do this, but there are reasons it happens.
examining them is good,
and let’s remember that
the fact that one shouldn’t take things personally, does not invalidate the feelings you have which led you to do so.
let us not call ourselves a bad person and judge ourselves, let’s be nice to ourselves, for if you take things personally, you are already hurting and need help with addressing those feelings, you need compassion, from yourself yes, other too perhaps, you don’t need judgement or punishment, they just increase the feelings and make you resentful and worse, no no, you need self-compassion.
in this case.